Today I had the opportunity to teach my fifth graders a valuable lesson, at least one I think is important. One of the girls kept commenting to another teacher that she’s too skinny and needs to eat more, etc. She wouldn’t stop and others were chiming in. This teacher wasn’t angry in the least, but I stepped in to make it a teachable moment because I just couldn’t stay silent. The girl didn’t understand why she shouldn’t say that since she said it was a compliment because “obviously no one wants to be fat.” Though I assured her she wasn’t in trouble in the least, I made sure she and the others around her understood that it’s not okay to make comments about other’s body sizes - even if you think it’s a compliment, even if it’s done with good intentions. Their size could be a side effect of a serious health issue. Maybe they’re really insecure about their size, no matter what it is. And glorifying only skinny & thin bodies does us so much damage. As I looked around the classroom at the diverse body sizes of all the kids and their teachers, it hurt my heart. I’m sure a few girls were feeling insecure about themselves. I half expected her to make a comment about my weight in response. But what I do know is that no matter if we all ate the same food and exercised the same, we would still all have different body shapes and sizes. You don’t know what is behind the scenes of their lives - even if you think you do. Celebrating and glorifying skinny can damage so many people, even those society considers skinny. I know I personally struggle with feeling as accepted by the world because I am obese. I think back to all the attention and positive commentary/compliments I used to get all the time when I was my smallest. It makes you think you are loved more for taking up less space. I encourage you to have these conversations with your children. Society has already taught them that skinny is best and it’s okay to comment on other people’s bodies. Let’s change that. #ww #wwcommunity
If you spend time on social media, you have the power to curate your feed to reflect what you want to absorb. We are taking in information about our world and our place in it all the time. Unfortunately, mainstream media messages are heavily skewed in the direction of unrealistic beauty expectations that leave us feeling like we are not enough. And then everyone around us is ingesting the same messaging, which further reinforces our belief that we are, in fact, doing something wrong. But you can unsubscribe from that channel. Flooding your feed with images of diversified beauty, anti-diet messages, and words of motivational self-acceptance will slowly but surely change the way that you see things. Take this power and run with it. 💜Follow my stories every day of the week for a daily dose of diversified beauty images. 💜Sign up for my Body Image Mini-Course through the link in my bio. This course is designed after my own healing process of learning to appreciate and respect my body, and includes many more tools to start healing your body image NOW.
Instagram is a highlight reel. You scroll and see the girl who just got engaged. Next scroll is your old friend who’s clearly thriving at college. Next scroll is someone who just got a promotion. Next scroll is someone with the body you want. Next thing you know, you hope back on hinge and join a gym - all because of a few posts on Instagram that made you feel less than perfect. Stop comparing yourself to people on the internet. Chances are, that’s not what their life (or body ) really looks like. . . . #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #comparison #stopcomparing #edrecovery #normalizenormalbodies #selflove #selfacceptance #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #cutebelly
I took this picture over a month ago... Right before we left Fort Rucker, it was a coolish (under 80 😅 ) day. I had just gotten this sweater, so I decided to do my hair and make-up for the first time in MONTHS. I was feeling super cute and got to a family session early. I decided why not? I’ll snap a few phone pictures of myself in my new outfit and share on IG. Except I snapped them, looked at them after the session and immediately closed the pictures app on my phone. I remember feeling crushed. Truth is...seeing myself in my “now body”, the one that’s allowed me to carry, give birth, and fully nourish two beautiful babies + deal with stress/trauma through the years, is still hard for me. In my head, I look like I did in college and seeing that I don’t is sometimes a shock. Negative self talk crept in. Along with that, shame, doubt, and judgment all flooded my brain; I started saying things about myself that I would NEVER say about anyone else. Somewhere along the way, I was lead to believe that being thin equates to goodness. Being thin equates to happiness. To value + worth. And in this new body, although I KNOW I’m an even more kind/respectful/caring/thoughtful person now than I was at 20....if I’ve gained weight, am I sure about that? Obviously, it sounds ludicrous to say out loud now but that’s the process that goes on for me at times. Even years in to my body positivity journey. So that day I shut my phone. I took the time I needed to process. Now, I look at this photo with love. With adoration for the woman I’m becoming today. I look and see how cute this outfit is, how I took time to curl my hair. Sharing this all (even though I’m feeling real vulnerable right about now ) because if this is familiar to you, I want you to know you’re not alone. I want you to know it’s worth doing the work to shut down your inner self critic. To teach positive self talk. To work on body image. To know and realize and be absolutely sure that you matter. Your worth is not dictated by your size, your hair color, your skin color, or anything else that our society considers outwardly “beautiful”. You’re worthy, just as you are ♥️
“I don’t want to hang out. But I’d love to take your portrait.” I’m in one of those phases of mania where I’m sad as f*ck for no reason but have lots of energy - sometimes mental and sometimes physical - but never both at the same time. There are few things in this world that make me feel whole. I constantly seek novelty, and what appears to others as social time is actually complete self absorption. I am working, taking photos, or training muaythai, and I just happen to need other people around to do those things. The social element is a byproduct of a compulsive need. I feel a strong connection to my collaborators during our time together, but to me, bonding is secondary to the work. The anxiety is significantly louder with social media. My inboxes overwhelm me - I want to say yes to everything! To have all the deep conversations, do all the shoots, help everyone with all of their amazing projects (because holy moly, y’all are working on some incredible things, I believe in you so much & am so honored to be part of what you’re making )...but like everyone, I have limited hours in my day. Often, I still try to fit it all in. The first things to go are basic necessities like sleeping and eating. Time with my partner. Time to do dishes and laundry...anything to maintain order. I have to remind myself of what happens to me when I book up all of my time off for months and pull multiple all-nighters in a row. Turns out I’m not superhuman. When I think highly of someone, I ask to take their photo. There’s less articulation and more instinct. That’s what feels intimate to me, and it’s no wonder I spend so much time getting to know myself this way. If I haven’t responded to your conversational messages as fast as I usually do, please know it’s not personal. I am taking care of myself. Crafting fuels me. Sober socialization drains me. I wish I could articulate it in a way that didn’t hurt the people I care about. But maybe I’m just bad at relationships. [ID: Sam wears a satin slip dress and sits on the corner of a cactus garden bed at the Downtowner Motel. Her hair drapes over her shoulder and she looks up at the high noon sun.]
Posteada VS eliminada ❤️ (pensé MUCHO en publicar esto, pero tenía muchas ganas de compartirles este espacio otra vez ) y nooooo una no es “mejor” que la otra, ni es menos valiosa. Este es mi cuerpo, mismo día, con unos segundos de diferencia, con el mismo traje de baño… solo una es posando y la otra relajada y las dos están bien. ¿Podemos aceptar que todos los cuerpos de las personas son diferentes e incluso un mismo cuerpo puede verse completamente diferente de un momento a otro? Recuerda que tu cuerpo es ÚNICO y debemos dejar de compararnos. Vamos a empoderar nuestras marcas, instrumentos, cicatrices… Agradece a tu cuerpo por ellas, díselo… al espejo o abrazándolo. Todo eso es lo que te diferente y especial. #BodyAcceptance #TeAmoCuerpo #MiCuerpoIdealEsHumano
A letter to younger Billie, Who is this spice you may think well it’s only bloody you!! Being able to look back on the bad times now knowing you’ll be going through them right now. Crying to mum about how fat you are, how a girl said you were ugly. How a boy you thought ‘loved’ you said you really had thunder thighs and was only with you because he thought you would be easy. ⠀ I know how damn strong you are although you don’t feel it. You walk around alone because you don’t have anyone you can trust. You tried so hard to be liked you even changed who you were to fit in. ⠀ But look girl, at age 22 things are so much better. There has been a long journey of struggles, heartbreak, and hating you. I’m sorry you still have all that to face. ⠀ But I promise it gets easier, not only in life now do you have a fiancé you are due to marry in just over a month, you are also over half way through your second pregnancy (yes you heard that right ). You already have the most amazing 9 month old who absolutely changed your world. The person who made you a mother, the daughter who you just wish will be just as strong as you one day. You got naked the other day in front of Oxford bloody Circus! You were empowered and felt so strong knowing you are changing the world. You might not believe it but it’s coming, things do always get better. Listen to mum remember what she says is true. You will change the world, you’ll make an impact. One step at a time you get there. ⠀ The world has a strange way of showing things and you may hate some days, you may wonder why this is all happening to you, but it all works up to these moments that will last a lifetime. ⠀ You are strong. You are beautiful and you are me. We can do this.
Unbothered by your opinion 👏🏼
Hi there 👋🏽 yup you. Let me remind you that hunger is nothing to be afraid of. Yes we are heading into spooky szznnnn but hunger means you’re alive, although when you’re HANGRY it could feel like you’re the walking dead 🧟♀️ Let’s talk some facts about hunger: 1. If you feel like you cannot stop thinking about food, you’re probs hungry. 2. HANGRY is real. Means your blood sugars are low and it comes with a side of irritability and anger cuz your body is trying to shake some sense into you to EAT 🍛 3. In case you didn’t know. It’s ok to be hungry multiple times a day. I know SHOCKER! 😳 Legit chula you gotta eat. Hunger means you’re alive and you gotta nourish your body. When you don’t bad body image days are more frequent, thoughts of food get outta control, bingeing occurs and you’re super drained and low on energy 🔋 Many of the Chulas I work with come into my programs fearing hunger and leave honoring it and feeling better. Not only do they learn to have a better relationship with food, they also learn to respect their body. Wanna join the club? I help latinas like you learn these things and so much more. Get the tools you need to kick diet culture to the curb & honor your culture in the process. Apply to my group program. ✨link in bio✨